To Forgive Is Divine

The Law of Forgiveness states that whatever you don’t forgive holds you in bondage. This seems to be one of the most difficult lessons to learn, at least for me. But when I observe other people, it seems they have a hard time with it, also. The deeper the wound, the harder it is to let go of the hurt.

When you stop to think about it, forgiveness is really unnatural for us humans. We do not naturally forgive others when they wound us. We hold onto grudges and nurse our hurts. Our wound is like a small child that we carefully tend and nurse making sure that it will not die but that it will grow stronger. It seems that we want to have something to show for all of our pain and sorrow and so we grow and nurture our resentment and our sense of loss.

This small child grows larger and larger and starts taking up more and more space in our lives. Sometimes it even becomes the main event, butting into conversations, showing up in relationships, and throwing emotional tantrums when we least expect it. The wounded child can eventually enslave you to its unreasonable, surly demands.

Forgiveness is the only way to excise the power of the wounded child. Forgiveness involves love, not just to the person who harmed you, but also to yourself. Unless the wounded child is embraced with love and forgiveness it acts like a monster in your life. When you view your life through the lens of the Law of Soul Choice—everything can be viewed as a choice of your soul—then it is easier to forgive yourself. It is also easier to forgive others because you can look for the lesson of what was learned in every painful situation.

I used to believe that a teacher was someone who was kind and generous and loving. I didn’t realize that many of the teachers that I have learned from in my life were ones that I viewed as harsh, controlling, and abusive. Not teachers in school, although some were certainly better than others, but the people in my life. I looked on them as the villain—ugly, menacing, and powerful. It wasn’t until I saw them as teachers that I realized that they were acting out their own wounding and only had negative power in my life when I viewed them as villains. When they became teachers, I had the power to glean lessons regarding my own soul choices and not be a victim to their wounding behaviors.

It is from this perspective that I can forgive myself and forgive them. We were each one doing the best we could at the time. Some people suggest that this implies that we don’t have a choice or free will. Sometimes people are victims of crimes committed by other people. Regardless of why or how something happens, whether it is by a conscious choice or by an unconscious agreement of the soul, we can view our life experiences as part of a bigger plan.

Forgiveness is a bestowal of love from the Spirit. It is a gift from Heaven. It descends to us to help heal our wounds. But it only comes as we release our condemnation of others. Jesus’ prayer reminds us, “Forgive us as we forgive others”. As we release our sense of hatred and condemnation of others, our soul is flooded with forgiveness. We have to choose to let go of our pain and hatred. We have to quit feeding our wounded child with poisonous reminders of how we were wronged and instead quiet and subdue it with love.

When we stop nursing and feeding our sense of victimization it starts to lose its power in our lives. This may cause an identity crisis if our being a victim has become our whole reason for living as it often does. Who are you, who am I outside of victimization? Strong, responsible, growing human beings if we choose.

If we want to be set free, we must embrace the concept of forgiveness. It is very often the boulder sitting in the middle of the road on our spiritual path that keeps us stuck for a very long time. To move past it, embrace your past and everyone involved in it with love. When you can do this, you will be free indeed!

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