One of my cats is out of control and of course, it’s my own fault. You know how it is; they sort of train you and not the other way around. Somehow, Tigger, my tabby cat, has decided that whenever I eat that she needs to eat, too—but not her cat food—my food. She wants what I’m having and meows without stopping until she at last gets to lick my plate. How did this happen? I’ve created a monster!
It’s turned into a nasty habit as so many things can do in life. This one started out by innocently letting her see my empty plate. She found it very intriguing. It has escalated from there. I can no longer eat in peace!
I have had other things escalate in my life without my realizing it until they had turned into something hideous and obnoxious. Some of the things that come to mind are:
• Ignoring my own needs in a relationship thinking that they were optional and I’d remain happy without them being met.
• Not listening to my heart.
• Thinking that the huge chocolate dessert was not going to make me gain weight.
• Ignoring pain because it was inconvenient to go to the doctor.
• Continuing to work at a job where I was unhappy.
• Ignoring social cues that it’s time to move on.
What all of these things have in common is that they all involved ignoring that little voice, intuition, that helps one to know when things are not quite right. What happens when we ignore our intuitive instincts, the messages from our heart, is that those messages eventually shut down because we ignore them so often.
Women are supposed to naturally have better intuition than men, at least from what some studies suggest. But, women consistently have more trouble honoring their intuition and speaking their truth. Most of the times that I have kept quiet and just "kept on keeping on" were so as not to rock the boat or upset anyone with how I felt. We often learn this at a young age.
We create a chasm—a giant void between what is in our hearts and what is in our head. Eventually we don’t know how we feel anymore. This will keep you in relationships, jobs and circumstances that make you unhappy. Life then turns into something hideous and obnoxious and you have no one but yourself to blame.
What is needed is to be able to re-integrate your heart and your head so that they are in balance. Both are needed in order to navigate this life. The heart and intuition, and eventually your soul, act as a guide to help you know your own truth. “Is this true for me? Does this feel right? What is my sense about this?” Is just as important of questioning as “Do I think this is a good idea? Or “Do I think this is the right direction to go? Do I think this will work out OK?”
We need both the active/solar energies and awareness to make decisions as well as the receptive/lunar energies. If your heart has been wounded it feels safer to stay in your head when making decisions. But the chances that you will end up happier when you do this are slim to none. Why? Because you have to have input from your heart and soul in order to be happy.
On the other hand, if you make all of your decisions based on your feelings and don’t use common sense and logic and all of your educational/linear skills to make sound choices you will more than likely end up with as many troubles and maybe more than if you stay stuck in your head. Maybe that is why we tend to use the mind more than the heart in decision-making—we feel it is safer and more reliable.
But to leave out the concerns of the heart is to live a soul-less life. A life devoid of your heart’s desire is a life without passion and without passion it is hard to hang in there for the long haul. As I live my life, I want to know the song of my soul. When someone asks me what I love, I want to know the answers. When I listen for the still, small voice of God, I want to hear it in my heart.
It’s turned into a nasty habit as so many things can do in life. This one started out by innocently letting her see my empty plate. She found it very intriguing. It has escalated from there. I can no longer eat in peace!
I have had other things escalate in my life without my realizing it until they had turned into something hideous and obnoxious. Some of the things that come to mind are:
• Ignoring my own needs in a relationship thinking that they were optional and I’d remain happy without them being met.
• Not listening to my heart.
• Thinking that the huge chocolate dessert was not going to make me gain weight.
• Ignoring pain because it was inconvenient to go to the doctor.
• Continuing to work at a job where I was unhappy.
• Ignoring social cues that it’s time to move on.
What all of these things have in common is that they all involved ignoring that little voice, intuition, that helps one to know when things are not quite right. What happens when we ignore our intuitive instincts, the messages from our heart, is that those messages eventually shut down because we ignore them so often.
Women are supposed to naturally have better intuition than men, at least from what some studies suggest. But, women consistently have more trouble honoring their intuition and speaking their truth. Most of the times that I have kept quiet and just "kept on keeping on" were so as not to rock the boat or upset anyone with how I felt. We often learn this at a young age.
We create a chasm—a giant void between what is in our hearts and what is in our head. Eventually we don’t know how we feel anymore. This will keep you in relationships, jobs and circumstances that make you unhappy. Life then turns into something hideous and obnoxious and you have no one but yourself to blame.
What is needed is to be able to re-integrate your heart and your head so that they are in balance. Both are needed in order to navigate this life. The heart and intuition, and eventually your soul, act as a guide to help you know your own truth. “Is this true for me? Does this feel right? What is my sense about this?” Is just as important of questioning as “Do I think this is a good idea? Or “Do I think this is the right direction to go? Do I think this will work out OK?”
We need both the active/solar energies and awareness to make decisions as well as the receptive/lunar energies. If your heart has been wounded it feels safer to stay in your head when making decisions. But the chances that you will end up happier when you do this are slim to none. Why? Because you have to have input from your heart and soul in order to be happy.
On the other hand, if you make all of your decisions based on your feelings and don’t use common sense and logic and all of your educational/linear skills to make sound choices you will more than likely end up with as many troubles and maybe more than if you stay stuck in your head. Maybe that is why we tend to use the mind more than the heart in decision-making—we feel it is safer and more reliable.
But to leave out the concerns of the heart is to live a soul-less life. A life devoid of your heart’s desire is a life without passion and without passion it is hard to hang in there for the long haul. As I live my life, I want to know the song of my soul. When someone asks me what I love, I want to know the answers. When I listen for the still, small voice of God, I want to hear it in my heart.
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